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Relationship tips for women who are experiencing issues, specifically with a man who is in his comfort zone. What do you do when your man is lazy and too comfortable with you? Why do men get comfortable? We will get to those answers but before I do, lets take a look at inside of a men's mind and get a feeling of what it is like to think like a man. First of all. Men are natural hunters. They are born to think and act like a hunter. Generally men love to chase after women. When they spend all that energy and effort to have you as their girlfriend, they feel like they have accomplished their mission. They would rest and take it easy. When your man wakes up and sees you lay there beside him, he knows that he got you and now the efforts of chasing are gone. What do you do in this situation? Start early on, as soon as you see your man become lazy, act immediately. Keep him on guard or else he will go to "sleep". In the beginning stage of your relationship, you would notice how your man will do amazing things for you. He would cook for you. Take you to the restaurants. Spend time with you. You wake up in the morning and get breakfast in bed and etc. As the time goes by, you are beginning to see the changes. All of a sudden, you no longer get that nice breakfast in bed. You no longer go out anywhere. He would leave his socks on the floor and you would pick it up. He would come back from the bar at 1 in the morning-- you accept it as if its normal and live on. Before you know it, he is not even doing anything to keep the relationship alive. All of a sudden it is his fault but who allowed all of that to happen in the first place? So it is time to do something about it. How many times you hear this "I only realize how much I love you after I lost you". It happened to one of my relationships. I confess. It was in that exact same situation and let me tell you, it is hard not to be in that comfortable zone. It is very difficult to change the direction of where the relationship was going. I felt like it was sucking me in and all i could do i wait and wait before I completely lost her. It was biggest lesson in my life. Even now it is hard not to get too comfortable. I am speaking from experience. Believe me, you do not want your man to get into comfort zone. You constantly need to change things in a relationship. It is up to you ladies. Really. Once a man has you as his girlfriend, it is only matter of time before he goes into the comfort zone, do not let it happen. Keep his guard on, do not let him fall asleep. So your biggest question now is, how do you change things up to keep him away from comfort zone? I am going to provide few things that will get you started. The rest - use your creativity and mostly common sense. Important for both of you to remember is not to get domestically comfortable with each other. Change things up. Try not to be predictable. Instead surprise him with your requests and needs. Here is a list of things that will get you started: -Keep him guessing. Try not to be predictable -Do not run around after him -Threaten to dump him occasionally when he gets too comfy -If he asks, what you are thinking, do not answer that question -Never allow him to think that you are dependent on him -Never fall into his comfort zone -Create rules early on, even if he doesn't like them -Make sure he knows how desirable you are to others -Once in a while, do not answer when he calls -Keep some of your finances separate -All domestic duties should be shared all the time -Get him to do the laundry and dishes and cook once in a while -Go for a vacation once in a while -Think of men as puppies. You need to train them or they become lazy. Keep their guard on and you will be just fine! If you liked this article, feel free to visit authors personal blog at http://www.dateintoblog.com Article Source: http://EzineArticles.com/?expert=Alexander_Berson |